Why We’re Drawn to Some People Like Magnets

Have you ever met someone and just felt it? That unexplainable pull – like you’ve known them forever, or like they carry something you’ve been missing? Sometimes it’s romantic, sometimes it’s a friendship, sometimes it’s even a coworker you can’t stop thinking about (in the best or worst way).

Human Design has a pretty fascinating perspective on this: we’re drawn to people who “complete” us in certain energetic ways. Each of us carries defined energies – traits and pathways that come naturally – and undefined energies, which are more open, malleable, and sensitive. When we come into contact with another person, their defined energy flows into our open energy, and boom: that’s the spark.

In other words, we’re often magnetized to people who shine where we don’t, who carry energy we don’t have easy access to on our own. It can feel like they’re unlocking a door we didn’t even know was there.

Sometimes this feels amazing.
Sometimes it feels… triggering.

Because that’s the thing – these connections aren’t just here to make us feel good. They’re here to grow us. When someone activates a part of us that’s been quiet, ignored, or even resisted, it can feel both exciting and uncomfortable. This is true in every kind of relationship: friends, coworkers, lovers, family. It’s not about good or bad – it’s about chemistry (or in this case: energy).

When a bond is strong, comparing Human Design charts can reveal exactly why. You can see the energetic pathways that link together, the reasons behind that instant connection, and what you’re here to learn from one another. And when a bond doesn’t work out, looking at the charts can help the mind make sense of what the heart still feels – why that person mattered, what they showed you, and where you’re being asked to step into more of your own energy.

We’re not meant to exist in isolation. Every interaction – whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or the barista who remembers your order – creates a kind of chemical reaction. And when you start to see relationships this way, you realize: it’s not random. It’s design.

So the next time you feel that magnetic pull toward someone (or even the push-pull tension of someone who just gets under your skin) get curious. What part of you is being activated? What might they be showing you about yourself?

Because love, attraction, connection - it’s not just fate. It’s energy, weaving us together in ways we’re only just beginning to understand.

👉 Curious why someone made such an impact on you? That’s exactly what my Chemistry Codes Reading reveals.